Getting the Last Chapter Right
An hour video on how face the reality of mortality, leaving a legacy instead of a mess.
Here is the link to the video It’s an hour long, on YouTube, covering several topics.
Thanks to Avenues to Wellness Speaker Series, a program of the Frank R. Howard Memorial Hospital Foundation, Willits, Mendocino County, CA. An opportunity to share important ideas. This is their video of my presentation to fifty people, 17 May 2025
The last few pages in any book are always the most important. The plot comes together, characters forgive and are forgiven, and loose ends are tied up. You can “make it so” in the final chapter of your life. Your legacy is the ultimate evidence of what was most important to you; not just paperwork! Conquering fears, and handling material and spiritual details will be the final gift you give to those you love. Peace of mind and time for fun and loving connection will be your reward.
I’m a medical social worker and psychotherapist with a matter-of-fact perspective on the reality of mortality. In my private practice since 1985, I have been involved in hospice and supporting those who grieve. I have been living strong with stage 4 cancer since 2019. I joyfully aided my husband in his choice to use the Medical Aid in Dying, legal in California since 2016. He passed peacefully at home on 12/31/22.
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That is a potent and urgent call to action. Love it and admire your posture, your quick thinking and remembering, and your wit about all of it.
You could give this talk at UCSB in Arts and Lectures. Tons of seniors listen there also.
Unfortunately, I don’t live there any longer so that you could stay with me. Great hospice group in town.